Sex remains a topic that many people have questions about. Not everyone dares to ask a friend or partner, so Google often becomes the safe haven. What are people searching for the most? Here are the 10 most Googled questions about sex — with answers to help break some taboos.
1. How many times per week is sex considered normal?
There’s no such thing as “normal” when it comes to sex. Research shows that many in the Netherlands have sex about three times per month — less than you might expect. Causes include busy schedules, stress, and fatigue, but that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. The most important thing is that both partners are happy with the frequency. Quality over quantity!
2. How long does sex usually last?
The duration of sex completely depends on the people involved. Studies often show averages of five to seven minutes for penetrative sex, but that doesn’t tell the full story. Foreplay, cuddling, and other intimate moments are just as much a part of the experience and can make the time you spend together much longer and more meaningful. Sex is what you and your partner make of it — not what the statistics say!
3. Why does sex sometimes hurt?
Sex shouldn’t hurt — unless, of course, that’s the intention within agreed-upon limits. Pain can have various causes, such as lack of arousal, vaginal dryness, or a medical issue. Use lube, or talk to a doctor if the pain persists.
4. How do I improve my sex life?
Communication is the most important thing — sex is something you do together. Talk to your partner about your desires and needs. Experiment, take your time with foreplay, and don’t be afraid to try something new. The key is that you both feel comfortable and connected.
5. Can you get pregnant the first time?
Yes, you absolutely can! The chance of pregnancy is just as high during your first time as it is any other time you have sex without protection. So make sure to use contraception if you’re not ready for a baby.
6. How many calories do you burn during sex?
Sex isn’t a replacement for an intense workout, but you still burn some calories. On average, you burn 69 (no joke!) to 100 calories per half hour. Of course, it depends on how active you are.
7. What’s the best way to have an orgasm?
This varies greatly from person to person. For women, clitoral stimulation often plays a big role, while men usually reach orgasm more quickly through penetration. Experimenting and communicating with your partner are the best ways to discover what works for you.
8. Does penis size really matter?
While the idea that size matters persists, it’s often more myth than fact. For most people, good sex is about emotional connection, technique, and mutual pleasure. Research shows that most women are satisfied with the size and that communication in bed is far more important than measurements. So: focus on what really matters!
9. How do I give better oral sex?
Oral sex is mainly about attention and communication. Ask what your partner enjoys and pay attention to their reactions — they’ll tell you a lot. Switching up speed, pressure, and movement keeps things exciting. Remember: it’s not about perfection, it’s about pleasure and connection. And if you’re unsure? A simple compliment about what you’re already doing well can work wonders!
10. Is it normal to not feel like having sex?
Absolutely. Everyone goes through periods where they have less desire for sex. This can be due to stress, hormones, fatigue, or other factors. The most important thing is to talk to your partner if it’s a recurring issue, so you can work together to find a solution.
